Marital Forgiveness Scale Ė Event

 

Think of the time (option to specify time period; eg., during the last 12 months) when you felt most wronged or hurt by your partner.

 

Write a very brief description of what happened:

 

 

 

How much hurt or upset did you experience when this event happened?

 

Very little††† 1††††††††† 2††††††††† 3††††††††† 4††††††††† 5††††††††† 6††††††††† 7††††††††† 8††††††††† 9†††† Most hurt

†††††† hurt††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††† ever felt

 

Now please rate the following statements:

 

Strongly†††††††††††††††††††††††††††††† Strongly

Disagree†††††††††††††††††††††††††††††† Agree

 

†††† 1††††† 2††††† 3††††† 4††††† 5††††† 6††††† I didnít want to have anything to do with her/him

 

†††† 1††††† 2††††† 3††††† 4††††† 5††††† 6††††† I soon forgave my partner

 

†††† 1††††† 2††††† 3††††† 4††††† 5††††† 6††††† I found a way to make her/him regret it

 

†††† 1††††† 2††††† 3††††† 4††††† 5††††† 6††††† I gave him/her the cold shoulder,

 

†††† 1††††† 2††††† 3††††† 4††† ††5††††† 6††††† I withdrew from my partner

 

†††† 1††††† 2††††† 3††††† 4††††† 5††††† 6††††† I did something to even the score,

 

†††† 1††††† 2††††† 3††††† 4††††† 5††††† 6††††† It was easy to feel warmly again toward my partner

 

†††† 1††††† 2††††† 3††††† 4††††† 5††††† 6††††† I retaliated or did something to get my own back

 

†††† 1††††† 2††††† 3††††† 4††††5††††† 6††††† I am able to act as positively toward my partner now as I was before it happened

 

The above items yield three subscales:

 

Benevolence (2nd, 7th, 9th items, alpha = .86 and .85 for husbands and wives, respectively)

Avoidance (1st, 4th, 5th items, alpha = .76 and .80 for husbands and wives, respectively),

Retaliation (3rd, 6th, 8th items, alpha = .79 and .77 for husbands and wives, respectively)

 

Reference

Fincham, F.D., Beach, S.R., & Davila, J. (2004). Forgiveness and conflict resolution in marriage. Journal of Family Psychology, 18, 72-81.